Ahad, 17 Mei 2015

How To Become a Better Person

Now I’d like to propose something.  I’d like to propose that you make up your mind, right here and now, to actually do this tomorrow – just as an experiment.  You don’t have to tell anyone what you’re up to, you don’t have to recruit others to do it with you and you don’t need to make a big deal out of it.  Just wake up with the attitude that no matter what happens throughout the day, you are going to give your life the very best you have to offer! You are going to live your life in a way that makes you want to be a better person.

 below are seven great lessons that I learned from him:
  1)   Stop making excuses. . . It costs too much money, it’s too risky, I don’t have time, I’m too old, I’m too young. . . . When he was 92, my grandfather decided he should be working out. He got a membership at a gym (thankfully, attached to a hospital) and went (walker and all) regularly. If there is something you want to do then do it.

2)   Everyone is important. At his funeral, a trainer who worked at the gym came. The guys who owned a pizza shop where Popop used to eat lunch once a week showed up. Popop made friends everywhere. He treated everyone well, because everyone deserves to be treated well. Don’t be in so much of a rush that you can’t treat people well.

3)   Send postal mail to someone you love. There’s something about a letter; it says you took the time because you care. I vividly remember getting a letter with my membership to the Smokey the Bear Club when I was in elementary school, because my grandfather thought I’d like it. When I started my business, my grandparents sent me Boston Market coupons, because “every little bit helps.” They also sent articles they thought would be interesting. Take two minutes to send something to someone you love. Even a handwritten note that says, “I was thinking of you,” will make a difference in their day.

4)   Seek out opportunities to be helpful. My grandfather was always giving out my business cards, and trying to find me clients. When his dentist called about opening a franchise, it wasn’t the best use of my time, but I loved that my grandfather never went a day without looking for a chance to help.

5)   You can be a hero every day, with the little things that help others – open a door for someone, help them with their packages, ask how they’re doing, introduce them to someone else. My grandfather was a hero to a lot of people. We can be heroes too.

6)   Pay attention. For an old guy he had a great memory. Even into his 80s, if I told him I had a big meeting coming up, he’d ask me how it went the next day. Listen to what people say and care enough to follow up – even if you need to write down the follow-up date in your calendar.

7)    Be interested. This goes beyond just being a good listener. When someone you love is interested in something, embrace it with zeal. How many 90 year olds are calling their grandkids to tell them “I just read an article about blogs and thought it would be important to your business.

How To Stop Cyber-Bullying

Cyber bullying occurs when electronic communications such as text messages, emails, instant messages, and social media updates are used to threaten or humiliate someone. Its consequences can be just as serious as the effects of bullying that occurs in person. Learn how to recognize and address cyber bullying before it gets out of hand.

Part 1 : Know What to Look For

Look for signs of harassment. Cyber bullying often takes the form of one person harassing another through emails, instant messages, text messages or other modes of electronic communication. Harassment is taking place if the bully is directly contacting someone with one or more of the following types of messaging:

  • Hateful or threatening verbal messages. This includes name-calling, attempts to control someone's behavior by threatening to expose embarrassing information and/or threats of violence.

  • Embarrassing or threatening images or videos.

  • An unending barrage of emails, instant messages or texts, whether or not they are threatening in nature.

  • Lies about the person to make them look bad.

                                      Part 2 : Take Immediate Action

Attempt to identify the cause. Some bullies start out as a friend, an ex, or someone else you know well. If it seems possible to have a reasonable discussion with the person, consider asking him or her to stop. Have the conversation in person, not through email or text.

  • Keep in mind there may not always be a reason for cyber bullying, or one that is straightforward. Sometimes people lash out on others because of their own insecurities. In any case, it is not your fault.

  • If you don't know who the bully is, or if you're being bullied by a group of people, attempting to talk it out probably won't work. You may need to take a stronger action.

Part 3 : Get Outside Help

- Don't wait too long to ask for help. You might be tempted to let the bullying run its course instead of bringing attention to the problem, but if you do that the bully will get the message that there's no penalty for putting someone else in danger. Don't assume the problem will go away on its own; speak up immediately to put a stop to it.

  • If you're a child or teenager, ask an adult for help. Your parents, teachers, principal and school counselor are all in a position to put a stop to the situation before it goes any further.

  • If you're a parent, take the situation seriously and address it immediately. Cyber bullying has often had tragic consequences.

Part 4: Prevent Cyber Bullying

Never share information online if it could be used against you. Cyber bullies often use pictures, status updates, and personal information they find online to harass their targets. It's fine to share a little information about yourself online, but never reveal something you don't want the whole world to know.

  • Don't take an explicit photo of yourself to send to someone else, and never let someone else take an explicit photo of you. You may be in love with your significant other now, but if you break up, you won't have control over what happens to those pictures. Many cases of cyber bullying involve former significant others trying to get revenge on their exes by distributing explicit pictures.

  • Personal information sent through private emails, texts and instant messages could land in the hands of a cyber bully. Try not to discuss embarrassing or deeply personal information online. Even if you're only telling a friend, you never know how the information might get out. It's best to discuss serious matters in person.